Lorry: Michelle, Thank you so much for speaking out on this issue. Yes, the world would certainly be different. Maybe a spirit of cooperation would become the norm.

Thank you, Rev Michelle. It’s great to see exhortations to men to “get it.” As the father of two “inconvenient pregnancy” children, I do.

Working for change, however, is another thing. I’m a 65 yo cis male, raised feminist by a feminist mother, and I’ve worked for reproductive rights and feminist issues all my life. But in trying to work in groups working for change, I’ve often been given to know, subtly or flat out, that as a male, I wasn’t wanted. Because things have to be led and done by women. Or, we’re happy to have you do this small job but please stay quiet. I get that too, and there’s some fairness for me in my turn to experience it.

I keep working for change and justice because I believe in the work. But often it’s on my own, and I miss the synergy and encouragement and joy of working with others.

Something to think about when exhorting men.